From learning to appreciate one's family to believing in oneself, the lessons imparted were numerous.
One cannot emphasize enough the role that parents play in a child's life. A lot of kids come from broken families or have absentee mothers or fathers. In worse cases, both parents are missing from their lives. This can cause immense harm in a child's progress as they grow from a child to a teen and an adult. While it may not necessarily be the case that growing up in families where both the parents are always present ensures that kids turn out right, it definitely increases the chances for the same. One Redditor asked a question to people who grew up with 'good fathers' about what life lessons they learned from their dads they always go back to. Some of the answers were highly emotional and reflective while others were extremely useful for anyone navigating the trajectory of life.
A lot of times, we tend to put the blame for our failures on things other than ourselves. One Redditor with account aynazifurry4bernie wrote that an important lesson his dad taught him was to always take responsibilities for one's actions: "You are the only person you have to live with for the rest of your life." In other words, take responsibility for what you do, learn how to move past your mistakes, and realize that your actions have consequences." Another commenter wrote about alcoholism and how being away from it was the wise thing to do according to his/her dad. The Redditor named Benjaminbuttcrack stated: "If you ever feel like you have a problem, just know you can live a full happy life without alcohol. He couldn't control it, and neither could I. He gave it up so he could have his son in his life, I gave it up because of his example."
While kindness is a virtue everyone knows about and everyone should follow, the world today is extremely mean. This Redditor named panicked228 wrote: "my dad taught me to always be kind. Kindness isn’t loud, it doesn’t need to be stated. It should just be inherent in everything you do. You don’t have to like everyone or treat them well if they don’t treat you well, but you should try to approach everyone with the same kindness you’d wish they’d give you." While one's dad or mom may teach us lessons, but the thing is life itself is something that is highly unpredictable and uncertain. This is one thing that was ingrained into the mind of Redditor reueltidhar by his dad. This person wrote: "Flexibility and adaptability. In several junctions of his life the plans my father had for his education and future were derailed by external forces he could not control..."
The person added: "...(such as the eruption of a war)...In each one of these cases he manages to change course and find an alternative— and he had done that dispassionately and very effectively without any hint of self-pity. I feel he could withstand any and all challenges and could not possibly be stopped by anything. I am trying to emulate." There are some dads out there who would answer anything that their kids asked and clear all their little queries. One Redditor named Pyratekyd_Kidd had a father like this and wrote on the post: "My dad taught me to indulge my love for learning. Want to read a history of the Aztecs at 6 years old? He took me to the library and we got a real history book and he helped explain what I had a hard time reading. Want to help in the garage? He taught me all the tools and taught me how to clean them and oil them and how to use them."
The person added: "He always took me seriously and answered every question. He was my greatest teacher and my biggest defender and my rock. I lost him in 2003 and I have missed him every minute since then. How I raised my kids has a whole lot to do with how he raised me."
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