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Mother Says She Watches Porn With Her Teen Sons To Educate Them Better About Sex Life

Mother Says She Watches Porn With Her Teen Sons To Educate Them Better About Sex Life

Experts say Yuni Shara's method is actually the right way that parents must go about handling children watching pornographic content.

A part of growing up is when teenagers get curious about things they feel like they can't talk to their parents. If parents don't step in to educate them about the hormonal urges at their age, they will turn to unreliable sources on the internet for answers. Sex education is important and dismantling the stigma around it is necessary. Teens will inevitably come across pornography online eventually, by accident or intentionally. But what they learn from it can be harmful. One mom, however, has found a way to ensure her sons don't get the wrong information from porn by watching it with them.



 

 

It may seem like the most uncomfortable situation to be in as a parent and as a child, but Yuni Shara disagrees. The 49-year-old mother of two is also a pop star from Indonesia who watches X-rated movies with her sons Cavin Obrient Salomo Siahaan and Cello Obient Siahaan to teach them the dos and don'ts of sex. She has been called "creepy" and other names for doing so but believes it is completely normal. She wants to leave the old ways behind and wants to encourage her sons to be more open-minded as well, according to The Sun.



 

 

In a recent interview, she revealed candidly that she does not scold or forbid her sons from watching pornographic videos as most parents would. She instead accompanies them. CNN Indonesia reported that according to Agstried Piether, Psychologist at the Dandelion House Child and Youth Education, Yuni Shara's method is actually the right way that parents must go about handling children watching pornographic content. "That's right, when you catch a child watching porn, no matter how panicked you are, you should not be angry because, in the end, the child will only do it again in secret," Agstried stated. "Instead, ask the child what prompted him to watch porn.



 

 

The psychologist then advises parents to have a healthy discussion with their children and provide "factual sex education, based on science, not based on pornographic films." Speaking to the interviewer, Yuni Shara said, "So, I think it’s better if I ask them, 'What do you guys think about watching (porn) together like this, is it cool?', and they’ll be like 'Mom, don’t be like this.'" She added that her children also happen to be open-minded, which helps. The singer's younger sister, Kris Dayanti, was all praise for the parenting technique and said that it was important her boys get proper sex ed.



 

 

The subject of sex is still a very taboo subject in a lot of Asian countries. But it is a conversation that must be had to not only ensure teens know about safe sex, but also about consent, sexuality, and bodily autonomy. It is better to brave through the few awkward moments that may arise while having the conversation instead of allowing your children to get information about sex from porn. More often than not, the porn available on the internet is exploitative and caters to the male gaze. It does not take into consideration mutual consent or even basic safe sex practices. Not to mention the violence that is sometimes a part of the videos.



 

 

"When you watch a ton of porn you start to form unrealistic expectations of how people actually look," Angus Whyte, GA who writes about behavioral health, adolescent development, education, stated. "It’s part of that brain development thing. You start to wire those images into your brain. And you start to connect those images to how you experience sexual pleasure and connect them with who you might want to have sex or become intimate with." It then has real-life consequences, which is why it would be better to have an adult they can trust, like a parent, to guide them. 



 

 




 
 
 

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